Moving ourselves toward Jesus: Ask God to show you someone He wants you to love. When He does, notice how you react inside. What pulls you away from loving this other person? What propels you toward loving this person?
Moving others toward Jesus: Then ask God to help you die to your fear, ambition, and need for control and to love that person in specific, concrete ways. then act as your true self and give that other person the love he or she needs.